Saturday, April 17, 2010

To be a parent or not

Finished the last round of PA training session on public speaking with Diana Ser today. Wanted to post a photo of the session here but seriously, no one will look close to decent beside her. I have become a fan because she is so pretty! And she's got substance. It was the second time that I was sitting in and I was not bored at all.

Fave line of the day: "No matter how good you are, how hard you try, there will be a portion of the audience who will absolutely hate you. What do you do? Go to your room, lock the door, cry into your pillow, wipe your face, then go out again."

I like that. Rephrase it into i) you can't please everyone, ii) it's ok to feel sad, and iii) move on. Period.

She also gave two good parenting tips. One, make your child FEEL as if they have made the decision themselves. And two, sometimes, to communicate means NOT to communicate at all. Let your child reflect on the situation themselves.

We spent the afternoon with baby Claire who came by with her parents for a swim. For the first time, I truly realise how much committment and energy bringing up a child needs. I absolutely have no idea if I am ready to take on such responsibility, despite my self-proclaimed goal of closing shop at 30 years-old. I have no confidence at all in communicating with children, to maintain their attention and strike the balance between teaching them and playing with them.

Gosh. If only I don't have to go through the child's growing up age, and he/she heads straight to the adult phase where I can communicate with them in a rational manner.

Will I ever, ever be ready?


1 comment:

the NUT said...

i guess noone will ever be ready for parenthoofd...but neither will u be expecting the joy that comes along. N it is this joy tt will give u e strength to go thru each day...e confidence to communicate...n a heart overflowing w love tt will translate to actions beyond imagination!! Im not a parent yet to be giving this kinda pep talk la..hahah but ive seen it in S n so many others. So keep tt factory goin!! Hehehe xxx

Hy